Your First Sex Toy: A No-Fluff Guide to Getting It Right

By the Naughty Nectar Wellness Team | 4-minute read

 

Everyone starts somewhere. And if you're reading this, you're already doing better than most people who just panic-buy the first thing that shows up online and hope for the best.

Choosing your first sex toy doesn't have to be overwhelming. It just has to be intentional. Here's everything you need to know before you buy.

1. START WITH CURIOSITY, NOT A SHOPPING CART

If you're buying your first toy, you probably don't yet know exactly what you like. That's completely normal, and it's actually the whole point. The goal right now isn't to find your favourite thing. It's to pick something low-pressure enough that you can figure that out.

A good starting question isn't 'what do I enjoy?' It's 'what am I curious about?' Are you more drawn to external sensation or the idea of something internal? Do you want something subtle and easy to control, or are you open to something more immersive? You don't need certainty. You just need a direction.

Think of your first toy less like a final answer and more like a first conversation with your own body. Start simple, stay open, and go from there.

2.  PICK YOUR STIMULATION TYPE

This is where most first-timers get lost, so let's keep it simple. There are four broad categories to consider.

External (Clitoral) Stimulation

Great for anyone who wants targeted sensation without penetration. Focused, precise, and often more intense than people expect.

Internal (G-Spot) Stimulation

Toys here are usually curved to hit the right spot and are built for pressure and fullness over surface sensation. Worth exploring if that's the kind of sensation you tend to enjoy.

Dual Stimulation

Does both at the same time, for when you genuinely don't want to choose. These tend to be the most popular category for a reason.

Anal Stimulation

Its own category entirely. Start small, use a generous amount of lube, and use toys designed specifically for this purpose.

3.  DON'T OVERTHINK THE CATEGORY

Vibrators are the easiest entry point. Bullet vibrators are compact and precise. Wands are more powerful and cover more area. Rabbit-style toys combine internal and external stimulation in one.

Dildos are for penetration without vibration. Strokers are designed for penis owners. Couples toys are for shared use. Pick one thing to start with. You can always expand later.

4.  MATERIAL MATTERS MORE THAN YOU THINK

Medical-grade silicone is the gold standard. It's non-porous, hypoallergenic, easy to clean, and completely body-safe. Glass, stainless steel, and ABS plastic are solid options too.

Stay away from jelly, latex, or PVC materials. They can contain phthalates, are impossible to fully sanitize, and have no business being near your body. If the price seems too good to be true, it probably is.

 

Material Quick Reference

MATERIAL	BODY-SAFE?	EASY TO CLEAN?
Medical-grade silicone	Yes	Yes
ABS Plastic	Yes	Yes
Glass / Stainless Steel	Yes	Yes
Jelly / PVC / Latex	No	No

 

5.  SIZE AND INTENSITY: START SMALLER

This is almost universal advice and almost universally ignored. Start with something smaller and adjustable. You can always go up. A bad first experience is much harder to recover from than you'd think.

Multiple intensity levels matter. The ability to start low and ease into it is what separates a great first experience from an overwhelming one. Look for toys that offer a real range, not just low, medium, and high in name only.

6.  KEEP IT CLEAN, ALWAYS

A toy is only as good as how you take care of it. Wash with mild soap and warm water before and after every use. Let it dry completely before storing. Non-porous materials like silicone are far easier to keep hygienic.

One important note: use water-based lube with silicone toys. Silicone-based lubricant breaks down silicone material over time, and that's not a mistake you want to make.

 

We Did the Hard Part For You

At Naughty Nectar Wellness, we've thought through every single thing this guide covers so you don't have to. Our toy lineup was built with beginners and the already-curious in mind: body-safe materials, smart sizing, adjustable intensities, and an absolute zero on the intimidation scale.

If you're drawn to precise, focused stimulation, TEASE was made for you. If you want options and versatility, MOODS gives you range. For a deeper, more immersive experience, OM-G delivers exactly that.

Every product we carry was chosen because it checks every box this guide just walked you through. Start with what feels right. We'll be here for whatever comes next.