7 Questions About Sex Toys You've Been Googling in Incognito Mode
By the Naughty Nectar Wellness Team | 4-minute read
Chances are, you have had at least one of these questions saved in a browser tab you immediately closed when someone walked in. That is the thing about sex toys: everyone is curious, nobody wants to ask out loud. So, we are asking for you, and answering without the awkward pause.
01. Are sex toys safe to use?
The short answer: yes, when they are made from the right materials. Body-safe options include medical-grade silicone, ABS plastic, borosilicate glass, and stainless steel. These materials are non-porous, which means they do not trap bacteria and should be cleaned properly after every use.
What to avoid: porous materials like jelly rubber, PVC, and certain TPE blends. These can harbour bacteria even after washing, and some release chemicals with prolonged use. If a toy smells strongly of chemicals straight out of the box, that is usually your first sign to put it back. All our products are made from body-safe, medical-grade materials. That is non-negotiable for us.
02. How do I clean my sex toy?
Cleaning method depends on the material and whether the toy is motorised. For non-motorised silicone, glass, and stainless steel toys, you can wash with warm water and mild soap or boil them for around 10 minutes for a deeper clean. For motorised toys, warm water and mild soap is the standard approach.
If your toy is waterproof, you can rinse it directly under running water. If it is not rated waterproof, wipe the surface down with a damp cloth and avoid submerging the charging port or battery compartment. Dry thoroughly before storing, and use a clean pouch or dedicated storage bag to keep things hygienic between sessions.
03. Can I use the same toy for vaginal and anal play?
No, and this one matters more than most people realise. Bacteria naturally present in the rectum, including E. coli, can cause serious vaginal infections if transferred on a toy. If you want to use the same toy for both, either clean it thoroughly between uses or place a condom on it and swap it out before switching.
For anal play specifically, always use a toy with a flared base. Unlike the vagina, the rectum does not have a natural stopping point. A flared base is the only thing standing between you and a very uncomfortable trip to the emergency room. This is not a detail to skip.
04. Should I use lube with sex toys?
Yes, and do not let anyone convince you otherwise. Lube reduces friction, makes everything more comfortable, and makes most toys work significantly better than they would without it.
The type of lube matters. Water-based lube is the safest choice across all toy materials: it will not degrade anything, it is easy to clean, and it is compatible with latex condoms. Silicone-based lube lasts longer and does not dry out mid-session, but it can break down the surface of silicone toys over time, so skip it if your toy is silicone. Oil-based lube is generally not recommended for use with toys as it is harder to clean off surfaces, can degrade latex, and tends to cling to toy materials long after you have washed them.
05. Can sex toys be used with a partner?
Absolutely. And if you have not tried it yet, you are genuinely leaving a lot on the table.
Vibrators used during intercourse can enhance stimulation for both partners simultaneously. Wearable couples vibrators add sensation for the penetrating partner as well. If you are just getting started and want to ease into the idea before introducing a toy into the bedroom, a card game like Behind Locked Doors or Kink on the Rocks is a genuinely fun way to open that conversation. Neither of you has to feel like you are negotiating a contract.
The main thing: communicate. What you like, what you are curious about, what feels good. A toy is just a prop. The conversation is where things actually get interesting.
06. How do I choose the right toy?
Start with what you actually want to feel, not with whatever seems most popular or impressive-looking.
For external clitoral stimulation, suction toys and external vibrators are built for exactly that. TEASE combines suction and vibration with 10 intensities each and is fully waterproof, making it a solid starting point if you are new to this. For internal stimulation and G-spot targeting, a toy with a curved head or a rabbit attachment works best. MOODS comes with three interchangeable heads: a rabbit attachment, a curved G-spot head, and a textured massage head. That is effectively three toys in one, which makes it worth considering if you want flexibility without buying separate products.
For those with a penis, a stroker like GRIP is a straightforward and well-designed option. For couples exploring together, anything with remote control or wearable functionality adds an element of play. You do not have to start with the most sophisticated thing on the shelf. Start with what makes sense for where you are right now.
07. Is it normal to feel weird about using sex toys?
Very. Most people grew up without anyone telling them that exploring your own body is a healthy and completely normal thing to do. Sexual self-awareness reduces stress, improves sleep quality, and builds a clearer understanding of what you enjoy, which tends to make partnered sex better as well.
The discomfort you might feel around this is not a reflection of who you are. It is a reflection of the conversations that were never had around you growing up. You are allowed to move past it, at your own pace, on your own terms.
Sex toys are just tools. Like any tool, they work best when you know how to use them, take care of them, and choose the right one for the job at hand. We built Naughty Nectar Wellness because we believed people in India deserved access to body-safe products and the information to go with them. No shame. No clinical packaging. Just things that actually work and a brand that takes what you put in your body seriously.
Browse the full collection at naughtynectarwellness.in and pick the one that makes sense for where you are right now. You have already asked the hard questions. That is the hard part done.